Thursday, February 15, 2007

Precepts To Live By


Be impeccable with your word - Speak with integrity. Say only what you mean. Avoid using the word to speak against yourself or to gossip about others. Use the power of your word in the direction of truth and love.

Don't take anything personally - Nothing others do is because of you. What others say and do is a projection of their own reality, their own dream. When you are immune to the opinions and actions of others, you won't be the victim of needless suffering.

Don't make assumptions - Find the courage to ask questions and to express what you really want. Communicate with others as clearly as you can to avoid misunderstandings, sadness and drama. With just this one rule, you can completely transform your life.

Always do your best - Your best is going to change from moment to moment; it will be different when you are healthy as opposed to sick. Under any circumstance, simply do your best, and you will avoid self-judgment, self-abuse and regret.

25 comments:

Melanie said...

words to live by, Peajay! The photo matches the words well.

Peajay said...

Thank you Melanie, how's the vineyard tour going? Hopefully more touring than tasting but I know you better than that!! ;D

Talking Bear said...

Tour? what tour? 1 vineyard in three days, is that a tour? We spent most of our time in our room sleeping.........;) It is hell getting old.

Talking Bear said...

Oh, I love the post, great insight

Peajay said...

TB, only sleeping, it's a shame when old age creeps up on you like that. Have you also noticed grey hairs, creaky joints and arms that just aren't long enough to read small print at any distance anymore. :D

Talking Bear said...

You know me all to well...;) Old,fat and lazy. I just cant seem to get up and get going some times.

Peajay said...

But surely you have a spry young nymph (Mel) who keeps you young and vibrant!! :D

Talking Bear said...

Let me remind you that I married an "older" woman. Spry and young may not accurately desrcibe her. But she does keep me well exercized in my daily chores. I thnk she has more energy now than when we were younger. Although she does blame me for her new found energy......;)

Peajay said...

Okay, maybe spry and young were wishful thinking but you could, out of decency, have agreed and given Mel that warm ,glowing feeling. But no, you had to go for the 'tell it like it is' older woman bit!! Men!! Will you never learn!! m(_ _)m --> PJ banging her head on the ground!!

Talking Bear said...

Oh young and sweet one, you wrongly assume that she is does not have that warm and glowing feeling. You do not have to be young and spry to feel hot and.....opps I mean warm and glowing.

Peajay said...

Oh old and sharp one, I meant 'warm and glowing feeling' from your compliments (which were distinctly lacking) not from a lubricious perspective. ;D

Talking Bear said...

Are they not one in the same? One must spread the compliments and affirm the love before we can embrace the other.

Peajay said...

Yes, but do you? After all you have just been somewhat harsh in your comment regarding marrying an 'older woman' which you could have dressed up with 'more mature' and so created the compliment. Perhaps you should try 'spreading' a little harder. :D

Talking Bear said...

I will not pretend to be an expert on love. I only have 21 ½ years with the same woman and three great kids who teach me everyday about the subject. However I do believe that to base one’s love off of the fallacy of perpetual youth is, in the long run, devastating to all parties. We age, there is no stopping that. To say I love you means just that. There are no conditions to it. Aging is just another part of the journey. Yes, compliments are great to give and receive. However, their legitimacy is only valued by the truth they hold. I could give compliments that detract from our aging, but she would know, in her quit moments of life that I am not telling the truth. That is when doubt sets in about many other facets of a relationship where complete honesty must be realized. I would rather keep my integrity, honest, and her respect and honor intact and say to her that I love her even in her aging. Both of us knowing full well that we are on the same journey. The statement more mature leads to a whole other domain of life. She is older than I, that is a fact. She has been and still is very beautiful regardless of that fact. Our bodies have taken a pounding from all that we have done together. We have built memories of a life well spent together and we have the scars to prove it. We have stood by each other through thick and thin. We have cried, laughed, smiled and frowned together through the years. I would not trade one second of any of it. I have a great friend, wife, lover and mate. There comes a time when the baseless compliments become meaningless and we would rather the other just hold us and simple say “ I am still here.”

Peajay said...

Sorry TB, I was being unduly lighthearted and flippant which has not translated very well in the printed form. I was not casting aspersions on your relationship. I can see what a fantastic parnership you have and given your very critical occupations and extremely creditable children I can also see it could not be any other way. You have my unreserved admiration and respect. (Unfortunately I have a tendency to be both teasing and sarcastic, faults which I readily acknowledge but fail to correct)

Talking Bear said...

You are in many ways just like the lovely lady I married. No apology needed. I like your humor. I was unsure where you where going with the comments, it seemed as if you were pressing for a more dignified answer so I broke down a gave you one. I myself have learned a lesson recently that my humor works best if my true heart feelings are known to all. Otherwise I can sound harsh evidently. You have not sounded that way to me. Keep up the funnies, I love it.....;)

Talking Bear said...

One of my faults is that I am often to serious these days. I am trying to find my funny side again without the harshness. My life took a hard "serious" turn sometime ago and things weigh on my very heavy. This I think has been hard on Mel because she is much more fun loving that I. Dont get me wrong, I love fun, it is just so dam hard to get there anymore.

Peajay said...

I can't even begin to have a grasp on the issues that you deal with on a day-to-day basis but I do understand that it can often be difficult to 'find that sense of fun'. I think you're getting there TB and I can't tell you how much I enjoy our 'chats'. If you ever find yourself at a loss as to where my teasing/sarcasm is heading please feel free to tell me.

Talking Bear said...

;)

Talking Bear said...

So, I put a little smilely face thingy and everyone just quits posting? I keep "swinging" by to see whats up, but taint nuttin hapinin. So before I get fixin to axe you all somtin, get posting.

Peajay said...

Sorry TB been a bit swamped with work and not sure what the response to your winky/smiley was but here goes:

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(='.'=)
(")_(")

Is it a bird? Is it a plane? No it's just some bunny!! :D

Talking Bear said...

WORK....yuck. I am off for another several days of hotel life, lovely. Hope all is well. i liked the bunny. Take care for now...

Peajay said...

Does this mean you're on holiday or have you been invited to the Oscars? I thought you had a 'hotel life' at home with all that pampering by your warm-n-cuddly wife. :) If it's the Oscars you're off to don't bother the Brits are going to walk it!! ;)

tb said...

NO. I am off to Tatical Response Force training.....boring

Peajay said...

Nice, you sure know how to have fun! ;)